Is This Thing On?

Testing 1, 2, 3… is this thing on?

It’s been a while since I’ve sent an email, but today, I’m reaching out with an offering of love and compassion.

The other day, I found myself in Costco, as one does, and noticed the Christmas decorations were already out. My first thought? "Oh shit." Instantly, a wave of sadness and remorse washed over me, along with emotions I couldn’t quite name.

Christmas used to be my favorite day—until I joined the DDC. For those who aren’t familiar, that’s the Dead Dad’s Club. Very exclusive, very VIP. I even talked about it on a recent podcast, which you can check out here.

Not exactly a club anyone wants to join, but I digress.

What came after that initial sadness is really what I want to share with you. A sweet voice, sounding just like mine, whispered: “It’s okay. I love you, and you don’t have to push away or change what you’re feeling.”

You know what? It's totally understandable why I felt that, and it's okay that I did as well. 

It’s strange sometimes to hear compassion show up like that, but that’s the beauty of the work I do with my clients—and with myself. It’s all about creating space for the okayness of whatever state we’re in. Moving with a gentleness so tender and personal that only our own hearts can offer it.

As we move toward the holiday season, when the veil thins and the "oh shit" moments creep in, remember: those feelings of dread or guilt or "I shouldn’t feel this way" are a natural part of being human. 

You’re not wrong or defective for having them. I’d bet you a million dollars someone else is feeling something similar right now. And when we remind ourselves that we’re seen, loved, and accepted despite those feelings—DAMN. That’s the best gift life can offer.

So, hi.
I love you.
You’re not wrong or bad.
You are not alone.

If you’re needing a dose of compassion and aren’t sure where to start, let’s chat. I’m just a Zoom call away.