Just Say No
“When you say yes to others, make sure you are not saying no to you.”
Self abandonment looks like the time you stayed in a relationship, even though every part of you was screaming to get out.
Self abandonment looks like the time you tried to make everyone happy, ignoring your own anguish only to break out into a panic attack.
Self abandonment is all the times you suffocated yourself in the name of helping others so they’d love you more.
You feel it. That feeling that sits in your throat and stomach that feels like betrayal.
You put in a smile, say you’re happy to help or that you’re fine, while silently raging inside.
Suppression of our souls is a self-sabotaging devil disguised as a people pleasing angel.
Self love, however, is the recognition that we cannot fully love or give to someone when we have totally drained ourselves.
The thing that helped me? I redefined selfish. I reclaimed it.
My new definition of selfish is, "An act of love and respect in the name of the self. To be selfish is to seek out the desires and dreams of oneself as an act of self preservation and care. Selfish is to show consideration for oneself so that we can show consideration for others."
Grab your journal, a cup of tea, and write down:
What am I afraid will happen if I ask for what I want?